Approach to Therapy:

Sometimes life can look fine on the outside while feeling very different on the inside. You may know that something has been difficult for a while, even if you are not sure how to explain it yet. You don't have to know exactly what to say or where to begin. We'll start with whatever feels most present and let the conversation unfold naturally, together. I want to understand you in the context of your relationships, culture, and the experiences that have shaped your life. As we begin to make sense of your story together, you may also begin to understand yourself with a little more clarity and compassion.

My hope is that therapy becomes a place where you feel less alone with what you are carrying, and a little more connected—to yourself and to the people who matter most.

Clinical Interests:

My clinical interests center around relationships and the ways they shape how we see ourselves and connect with others. I enjoy working with individuals, couples, and families navigating relationship challenges, family-of-origin concerns, life transitions, and cross-cultural experiences.

I have a particular interest in supporting people who have learned to carry life's challenges quietly and find it difficult to let others see what they are going through. Many struggle with self-doubt, perfectionism, or an inner belief that they should be able to handle things on their own, even when they are carrying more than most people realize.

Many of the men I work with describe wondering how they will be seen if they express fear, sadness, uncertainty, or the need for support. Together, we create space to explore those experiences with curiosity and compassion, helping them feel less alone with what they have been carrying and more able to bring their authentic selves into the relationships that matter most.

I also enjoy working with Asian, immigrant, international, and multicultural clients as they navigate family expectations, identity, intergenerational relationships, and the experience of living between cultures.

Whether I am working with an individual, a couple, or a family, my hope is that clients leave with a greater understanding of themselves, their relationships, and new possibilities for moving forward.

Education and Training:

I earned my Bachelor of Science in Biology from Syracuse University and my Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from Northwestern University.

My clinical approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Integrative Systemic Theory (IST), and trauma-informed care. I am currently pursuing advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and completing Levels 1 and 2 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

In addition to my clinical training, I have a background in Educational Kinesiology (Brain Gym®), which has deepened my appreciation for the connection between the mind, body, and learning.

I provide therapy in both English and Mandarin Chinese.

3 Things I love:

Skiing, cooking, and martial arts.

Neal is supervised by Rachael Kossy, LCPC.

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“你不需要一开始就知道该说什么，也不需要知道从哪里开始。我们会从此刻对你来说最重要、最真实的感受开始，让谈话自然而然地展开，一起慢慢前行。”
—— 兰国铭

治疗理念：

有时候，一个人的生活看起来一切如常，内心却可能经历着完全不同的感受。你也许已经知道，有些事情困扰你很久了，只是还不知道该如何表达。你不需要一开始就知道该说什么，也不需要知道从哪里开始。我们会从此刻对你来说最重要、最真实的感受开始，让谈话自然而然地展开。我希望能够在你的关系、文化背景，以及塑造了你人生经历的脉络中理解你。当我们一起梳理你的故事时，你也许会开始以更多的清晰与慈悲，重新理解自己。

我希望，治疗能够成为一个让你不必独自承受一切的地方，也让你与自己，以及生命中最重要的人，建立更深的联系。

临床兴趣：

我的临床兴趣主要围绕人与人之间的关系，以及这些关系如何塑造我们看待自己的方式，并影响我们与他人的联系。我喜欢与个人、伴侣和家庭合作，陪伴他们面对伴侣关系、人际关系、原生家庭议题、人生转变，以及跨文化经历带来的挑战。

我尤其关注那些习惯默默承受生活压力、不容易向他人展现自己真实处境的人。很多人长期经历自我怀疑、完美主义，或深信自己应该独自解决一切，即使他们所承受的，早已远超他人的想象。

许多我合作过的男性来访者都会思考：如果表达自己的恐惧、悲伤、不确定，或需要支持，会不会被别人另眼相看？在咨询中，我们会带着好奇与关怀，一起探索这些经历，帮助他们不再独自承受内心的重量，也更有能力把真实的自己带入那些最重要的人际关系中。

我也很喜欢与亚洲背景、移民、国际学生以及多元文化背景的来访者合作，陪伴他们探索家庭期待、身份认同、代际关系，以及生活在不同文化之间的体验。

无论是与个人、伴侣还是家庭合作，我都希望来访者能够带着对自己、对关系更深的理解，以及面对未来更多新的可能性离开咨询室。

教育与专业训练：

我本科毕业于雪城大学（Syracuse University），获得生物学理学学士学位；随后毕业于西北大学（Northwestern University），获得婚姻与家庭治疗理学硕士学位。

我的临床工作主要以情绪取向治疗（Emotionally Focused Therapy，EFT）、整合系统理论（Integrative Systemic Theory，IST）以及创伤知情照顾（Trauma-Informed Care）为基础。目前，我正在接受情绪取向治疗（EFT）的进阶专业训练，并完成 Gottman 伴侣治疗方法第一、第二阶段（Levels 1 & 2）的培训。

除了临床训练之外，我还具有教育运动学（Educational Kinesiology，Brain Gym®）的背景，这让我更加重视身心联系，以及身体、学习与心理健康之间的关系。

我提供英文及普通话（中文）心理咨询服务。

我喜欢的三件事：

滑雪、烹饪以及武术。

兰国铭的临床工作由 Rachael Kossy，LCPC 提供专业督导。